To be able to be in the here and now, we have to be clear with our past and have worked through it. Each of us has experienced ups and downs in the past: in childhood, adolescence, early adulthood, but also through drastic events such as when relationships break up. This development never stops and is part of life. Often, the time we spent together with our parents has shaped us in many ways. Only when we live our own lives and everything that was and happened has been forgiven, can we close the chapter and open a new one: that of our own future.
Childhood has often left its scars and we have been shaped for life by our parents’ behavior towards us. Our parents, in turn, have gone through a similar process. There is no point in blaming or attributing our behavior to our parents’ upbringing. We are responsible for ourselves and will only go our way freely if we forgive, stop judging and blaming.
What matters is that we have been given this life by our parents. There is no point in hoping that our own parents will change. Maybe they haven’t gotten that far in the process, maybe they just don’t have the interest to question things or the need to change something in their lives.
Everyone has their own pace in their development process. You can only accept what was, what is and deal with your scars. Try to understand why there are scars and keep deep introspection. This means feeling into the often “old pain” of the past to understand one’s own weaknesses, patterns and fears. Of course, this is an unpleasant feeling, but you face it. One is courageous and looks to understand who one is and how one has become that.
When the sorrow is gone, the newfound knowledge of one’s self remains. It strengthens the inner child and leads to the path into the light. This is all part of becoming an adult, as many people call it. We finally accept ourselves as we are with all our strengths and weaknesses and we can finally start a new chapter: that of our own future. We go our own way and come to the realization that we want to create something different for this future.
Once we have managed to come to terms with these experiences, we are prepared for the rest of our lives. Similar processes are repeated throughout life, e.g. how we deal with a disappointment or life experience that we have gathered. These are sometimes less, sometimes more intense.
Nevertheless, we must not close our hearts, otherwise the fullness and the light cannot find its way to us. And the power of the ancestors will be with us. Ancestors can give wise advice in difficult life situations and provide insights into their gifts. Thus ancestors can support and strengthen us in our spiritual development.
The apple does not fall far from the tree!
We are connected with everything and with our ancestors.
Take your time in your introspection through the past!
Here you can find an inspiration for a ceremony in memory of ancestrors.
Ceremony in memory of the ancestors
